I help women who have been betrayed reclaim their safety, power and freedom.
I coach Christian women who have experienced infidelity and/or domestic violence, to rediscover their self worth, find inner peace and move forward with clarity and confidence.
I am Beth Brunk, a Certified Professional Life Coach, and a Certified Transformational Nutrition Coach. If you are reading this, you may be suffering, devastated, or experiencing grief. I understand, and I have been there myself. Please allow me the honor of supporting you on your journey back to health and wholeness.
What do you mean by living an astoundingly thriving life? I am glad you asked! I mean you are thriving in all areas of your life at all times. You live in your integrity. Nothing shakes your faith in Yahweh and His goodness.
I am enjoying an astoundingly abundant thriving life. I have put in the work to get here. There is more work to do, won't there always be more work to heal while we are here in our human experience? I know how hard it is to control thoughts. I know what it is like to suddenly look around and see color again. I know what it is like to feel like I have been buried alive, I am suffocating and there is an elephant on my chest. Healing from sexual betrayal is work, however like most work, it is rewarding!
When we have been betrayed by the person who chose us, it cuts us to our core. It's so hurtful we don't know how or even if we will survive. The pain is all-consuming. Our minds never stop. There are so many questions we want to ask, yet if we have experienced gaslighting and abuse, we know that it wouldn't do us any good to ask those questions.
Life doesn't have to feel this way. I help others live a life that is abundant and thriving, just as they were created to live. The Messiah said that He came to give life and to give it more abundantly. (John 10:10) We were not created to carry soul crushing weight; He did that for us. He wants us to have freedom! His yoke is easy and His burden is light, (Matthew 11:30) He doesn't want us to be burdened with pain, frustration, unforgiveness, anger or bitterness. He came to set us free from all of that. But how?
I remember when he told the minister that we had gone to that I didn't want to have sex with him, that was why he looked at pornography. The blame was laid on me alone. He accepted no responsibility. Who wants to have have sex with someone who has mastrubated in front of them? Who doesn't accept no for an answer and has raped them, not just once but multiple times? He would confess to using pornography from time to time, I would forgive and life would go on, I now know just how much those "confessions" piled up on and in me. Then one day a lightbulb went off in my head -- he didn't look at pornography because of me! In that same conversation with the minister he said he had had a pornography addiction since age 12. I felt like the weight of the world fell off of my shoulders. The relief was instantaneous.
The pain of being treated like an object only for his sexual gratification was overwhelming. Intrusive thoughts, irritability, and hyperalertness all became part of my life. His behavior told me that I had no value. No worth. I have struggled mightily with dismantling that belief and KNOWING what my value and worth are, plus Who they come from. I knew they came from the Messiah, but when you are told in action and word often that you have no value or worth it starts to become believable.
I was unable to be truly present for my children. I walked around in a fog. Now that I have done a lot of healing, I have had to deal with the pain of missing out on my children growing up. There is a lot I don't remember. As a mother that hurts my heart and makes me sad.
Healing comes at our own pace. He will only lead us where we are ready to go. I was very intentional about pursuing my healing, I wanted to be healed so badly. To no longer carry the shame, pain, anger and hurt. To truly have freedom. Will I ever be fully healed? No! We are humans and will only be truly healed in His presence, however we do not have to go through this life foggy, surviving, barely able to function with negative thoughts and feelings, believing we are not worthy of anything else. We can heal all those things! We can heal a broken heart. We can heal and be done with automatic negative thoughts (ANTs). We can pick up the pieces and move on. We can change life for ourselves and our children. We can live in the freedom that the Messiah offers us every single day.
I get comments all the time about how much I have grown, how much I have changed and how strong I am. I know by these comments just how much I have healed. No one said those things to me 6 or 7 yrs ago! The REAL joy is the changes I feel within myself. The clearness I see in my own eyes. The strength I know I possess, the things I have handled and not been overwhelmed by. The knowing that I have learned from this experience of being married to a sex addict, and I will not repeat that experience again. I can truly say that I am thriving and not just barely surviving anymore. Life is abundant. Life is blessed. Life is so good. The Father has blessed me immensely. He has never left me.
These photos were taken almost 10 years apart. The difference in the joy that shines from my face stopped me in my tracks. The difference in my eyes is also quite shocking.
The orange sweater photo was taken in November 2015 after I allowed my husband (now former) to move home. The pink shirt was taken one and half years post divorce in July 2025.
What a change!
There are several steps to start living a life that is all about thriving instead of surviving!
Step 1 is to have support. Know who safe people are and add them to your support system.
You will need people to support your healing, those who will with loving kindness call you out when you aren't behaving as though you are healed in an area. You need people who will hear you out and validate your feelings. You need someone who will have your back and be protective of you. You need someone who is willing to slog through the gross stinky swamp with you. You need someone to be there for the good, the bad and the ugly. You need someone who will tell you to breathe when you forget to breathe. You need someone who will just sit with you when you are hurting. Most of all you need people who will point you back to Yahweh and His truth.
I had more healing from working with Beth Brunk Coaching!!! I was so lucky to be able to work with Beth for life coaching. She cares so deeply about people, and their healing and it shows. Beth is so empathetic and insightful and asks questions in the perfect way to get my brain thinking. Her life work homework is so helpful in healing and continuing my growth even after each session.
You need renewal to your body, mind and life. You are tired of intrusive thoughts. You are ready to be done with sleeplessness. You are no longer willing to keep secret and hide what has happened. You need validation that you aren't crazy and it wasn't your fault. You need strategies to stop the gaslighting you may be enduring. You need someone to walk alongside you and support you when things feel crazy again. Someone to encourage you to get back up when you fall down.
As a coach, I hold you accountable to change your thoughts, feelings and actions, over time at your pace. We will partner with the Holy Spirit through prayer and I will be your biggest cheerleader as you heal and start thriving. You may have heard things over and over about yourself that aren’t true or and you may have begun to believe them. We will dismantle those together and put them into a Biblical perspective to renew and heal your mind and being. When we heal emotionally, physical and spiritual healing often follow. Our body knows and will keep reminding us of what it needs to be healed, until we listen to it.
I am selective about who I work with, to ensure that you, as the client, are ready to take on this extremely important work, healing from being cheated on. AND to ensure that I am able to be as supportive as my clients need me to be. I want to be supportive of those who are the most ready to dig deep and aren’t afraid of doing the work, those who are done with surviving and ready to thrive.
At the end of our 3 months coaching together you will be better able to handle whatever life throws at you. You will no longer be controlled by other people -- you will control you. No longer will self care feel selfish; it will be second nature to take care of you. You will have started the forgiveness process and be well on your way to total forgiveness of your husband or former husband. You will feel energetic again, able to keep up with life, and no longer in brain fog. You will know your value. You will accept that you are worthy of love, honesty and devotion.
I am a strong believer in Yahweh, I will encourage your faith.
The Bible is my first go to book for self improvement and encouragement.
I fight the battles with you in prayer.
I don't hold you to a standard that I am not willing to hold myself to.
I have first hand experience with being cheated on.
I am continually learning, that gets passed on to you.
I want to see you succeed and THRIVE!
I have proven steps for going from survival to thriving.
We will delve deep into your beliefs, strengthening those that serve you, and dismantling those that don't.
No fluff, just honesty and tools that truly work.
Through our weekly coaching calls, I will support you as you do the work of healing. You have the choice to contact me between meetings for additional support and encouragement, or to just share a WIN. I LOVE to celebrate wins with you!
Back when I was surviving, I wondered if I would ever feel the way I do today. I am so grateful to be thriving and living an abundant life today. That quote "Be grateful for what you have, you prayed this," is so true! This freedom and abundance can be yours, too!
Your investment in yourself can never be too much. It doesn't matter if you are "just" a wife, don't have children, or you are a mother or grandmother. You are worthy of healing. You are worthy of living a life that is abundant, just as Yeshua said He came to give to us. You were created for thriving, not surviving. Betrayal trauma effects every aspect of your life. Invest in yourself for yourself. So you can live an abundant and thriving life, as Father designed you to do. Invest in yourself, for your children and their children. Invest in yourself for your community, whether that is work, church or your family life at home. Ask the Father for what is needed and for His will to be done. And in the asking, remember that He wants what is best for you! He will show you!
I want you to know that you are NOT alone in your pain, distress and journey. There are others who have gone before and now have a testimony of being overcomers, of healing and of growth. When you join my email list you will receive a FREE e-book: My Top 3 Bible-Based Tips Proven To Support Women Impacted By Intimate Partner Betrayal.