Betrayal trauma cuts deeper than words can describe.

It’s not just about broken trust—it’s the shattering of your reality, your safety, and your sense of self. Whether you’ve experienced infidelity, emotional deception, or abuse, the wounds left behind are real, raw, and often invisible to the world around you.

Healing after being betrayed by your husband is hard work. I will not sugar coat that. It IS hard but rewarding work, IF you lean in and truly do the work to heal all parts of yourself that are hurt.

Healing requires safety. Find your safety in Yahweh and Yeshua, and create it for yourself. Because I created safety for myself even though I was still married, I was able to start healing while still in the abuse and betrayal. Being safe means setting healthy boundaries, finding trauma-informed support, and having a compassionate space where you don’t have to explain or defend your pain. Whether through coaching, therapy, or a supportive community, you deserve to feel safe again. Boundaries are one way I created safety for myself. Another way I created safety for myself, is by building trust with myself, starting in small ways and working up to bigger ways of trusting myself. I also created several support system around myself and my children. Another form of safety was going to therapy and finding other modalities for healing and that were facilitated by believers in Yahweh.

I have found that I need healing, mentally, spiritually, physically, sexually and emotionally. Generally, He doesn’t lead me to healing in all areas at once. Though I have been led to spiritual and emotional healing at the same time.

He knows our limits more than we do, so trust Him and follow Him to healing. You don’t have to have it all figured out. Healing isn’t a straight line—it’s a series of small, holy steps forward. Some days, you’ll feel strong. Other days, you may need to rest. Both are part of the process.

The saying “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink” comes to mind. It applies to our healing, too.

He can lead you to healing but He won’t make you do the work.

You have to choose to do it. For yourself, your family, your friends, your community, for the world. When we show up healed, it heals others.

When we have done the work to heal it shows in the way we carry ourselves, our countenance, the words we speak, in every aspect of our lives. Our healing spreads to others. They want it for themselves, because they see the change in us.

If you’re reading this and feeling shattered, I want you to know:

• There is hope. There is healing. And there is a future that doesn’t revolve around the pain of your past.

• You are not too broken.

• You are not too far gone.

• And Yahweh is still writing your story—with compassion, purpose, and redemption.

Are you ready to begin your healing journey?

Learn more about my Messiah-centered support program,

Betrayed but Not Broken: A Survival Guide for Wives

—designed to help you move from surviving to thriving,

with faith, clarity, and a supportive community beside you.

He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds. He counts the number of the stars; he names all of them. Our Lord is great and has awesome power; there is no limit to his wisdom. The Lord lifts up the oppressed, but knocks the wicked to the ground. Psalm 147:3-6