A Survival Guide for Wives

Feeling alone, broken and so much shame for his behavior is isolating. Along with the this is the brain fog, feeling like you are slogging through mud every single day. Joy is drained from your soul. Laughter is nonexistent, nothing is fun or funny.

This will all be greatly reduced at the end of the 12 weeks as you have put deep with in yourself the knowledge of your worth, you have journaled the grief, shame, fear and loneliness.

You will have moved from surviving to thriving.

Our priorities come from what we value. When you know your priorities, you gain clarity on what truly matters what’s worth standing for, and what’s simply a distraction. Setting boundaries becomes easier when you know what is important to you and what needs a boundary around it.

Boundaries are Biblical! Yeshua/Jesus has boundaries. Yahweh/the LORD has boundaries, just read Leviticus! You need boundaries, too! Once you know what your priorities are, why they are priorities, you are better able to set boundaries around your priorities. Boundaries protect your peace and keep chaos from reigning within yourself and in your home.

Practicing true self-care will come with greater ease, you will feel no guilt knowing that when you take care of yourself, you are healing. You will be healing not only yourself but also your family. When we as women and mothers heal, our healing heals our families and those around us.

I love to help women understand why journaling is important. One of my favorite things is when someone tells they are enjoying it! Keep an open mind! I teach journaling outside the box, and it isn't just about writing anymore. How I teach journaling truly is different.

You will learn that it is ok to feel all the feelings. Honoring feelings and not hiding from them allows for healing. Your emotions are valid. Every tear, every ache, every wave of emotions is part of healing and not a sign of weakness. There is no weakness in healing. Facing the pain and choosing to heal makes you a warrior and extremely brave!

Having support during healing is vitality important. Knowing who is safe to be part of your support system is important for safety. The people you chose to be in your support system will love you, pray for you. They will catch you when you fall, lift you up and encourage you to keep going.

You are worthy because you exist. No one should be able to take that away from you. Yet over and over I talk to women who doubt their worthiness after intimate partner betrayal. (I did!!) You will be well on your way to having the knowledge of your worth deep in your bones, where no one can take it from you again.

Having a gratitude practice in place for the days when feeling and being grateful comes really hard or is non-existent, is beneficial for reminding us to stop and notice the ways that Yahweh IS present in our lives and taking care of us! Science has shown that gratitude changes our lives in ways we don't fully understand yet!

One of the reasons I teach journaling is that we as humans forget so easily. When we journal, however that looks for you, there are visible reminders of where we have been and where we are now. Noticing and celebrating the small ways healing is happening for you and for your family is important to know just how much you have healed.

At the end of 12 weeks, you will no longer feel as though you can not breathe; breath will come more easily. You will find yourself laughing effortlessly. Joy will flow through you and your face will shine with the Joy of Yahweh. Others will notice and comment. How do I know? Because it happened to me! When we put in the work to heal, it shows in all areas of our lives.